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When my fellow co-worker Sunil came in this morning, I reflexively greeted him with, “how’s it going?” This is something I ask without thinking, something that comes out of my mouth before my brain has a chance to determine if I prefer to ask that or perhaps “what’s going on?” or — what I picked up from my More...

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By David Gaines On Tuesday, February 14th, 2012

Happy Valentine’s Day Everyone

Here’s to your Valentine’s, hoping it’s as sweet as the first family’s…    More...

By David Gaines On Thursday, December 29th, 2011

An Ode To Nduku Malombe — The Video

One of my homeboys told me that posting all this “crap” about my girl was annoying. Wait until he sees this… [The music is Charles Cameron’s “I’ll Never Stop Loving You” More...

By David Gaines On Wednesday, September 1st, 2010

So Much Said In So Few Words

Three days had passed since I first met this stunning girl at the movies. Instantly she caught my attention, yet for whatever reason, she said nothing to me — so I said nothing to her.  More...

By David Gaines On Thursday, August 26th, 2010
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The Culmination of a Series of What Ifs

It’s intimidating how delicate life is. Every single choice we make yields a result. Every single decision we make, no matter how small the detail, serves a role in how life unfolds. Every single insignificant More...

By David Gaines On Sunday, June 27th, 2010

How Hard Is It To Be Taken Seriously?

Want to be taken more serious? Hand someone a heavy book. Or a bowling ball. Or maybe even a 48-inch TV. A study conducted by a bunch of smart people determined that there’s a relationship between “weight, More...

By David Gaines On Wednesday, April 22nd, 2009
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One More Reason Men Have No Remorse

Let me add a little something extra to the “Why Do We Men Handle The Breakup So Callously?” posting. Often when talking to one of my homegirls who are in a bad relationship, she’ll ask why can’t More...

By David Gaines On Sunday, April 19th, 2009

Why Do We Men Breakup So Callously?

After reading Kim Miles’ posting about Men, Women, and the Ability to Move On, I started reflecting on some of the relationships that I walked out on. I don’t consider myself one of the good ones; I More...

Men and Women Simply Think Differently
By David Gaines On Sunday, April 12th, 2009

Men See in Black and White While Women See All That Gray

Whenever I’m telling Lisa [my homegirl at the agency] something about someone I know, I refer to that person as my homeboy or homegirl — and all together as my people. Everyone is my homeboy or homegirl. More...

By David Gaines On Saturday, April 11th, 2009

Sagittarians and Taureans? Disaster

Zodiacs. Some people pawn them off as witchcraft; others swear by them. Most people I know are skeptical, but most people I know also agree that they fit their zodiac personality. I know as a Taurus I’m More...