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Najwa at Fayetteville’s Only Landmark

It’s amazing how after all these years, this is the first time I actually visited Fayetteville’s only landmark — the Markethouse. Probably because back in the day it was where they sold slaves, but still. I called a couple of my people and they all not only mentioned they never visited it, but they asked why I was there.

Regardless, we took Najwa downtown Fayetteville, NC, where there was a little festival and people walking around in character to Dickens’ Scrooge. I don’t know the story like that, but did Scrooge have a slave?

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Najwa is just determined to get her hands into the water at all costs.
 

Najwa Learning How to Use Eating Utensils

Chad was in town, and as usual, his schedule was so chaotic that we didn’t catch up until the next morning at IHOP. And he got front row seats to watching Najwa pretending like she knew how to use eating utensils.

 

Najwa Gaines at IHOP learning how to use eating utensils

Random Najwa — Summer 2011

 

Need a Lift?

Najwa at the helm

If she could only reach the gas pedal [or more importantly, the brakes], maybe I’d let Najwa take the wheels out for a spin.

NOTE: There were no animals injured or killed during this photo op. But 15 years from now…

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Najwa’s Birthday Photos From Mandu

Comcast is a joke. We’re virtually begging them to take our money and set up our internet, but for whatever reason, they continue to find ways to not set us up for internet. Hence I’m just now getting around to posting the photos from Najwa’s birthday party at Mandu. I’ll b!tch about Comcast later [then DirecTV after them]. For now, here’s Najwa:

Mandu Sept. 17, 2011

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Najwa’s Buddy Dillon

Other than her mom and dad, Najwa spends the majority of her time with the babysitter and the other kids she watches. Here’s Najwa with Dillon, one of the other kids who’s known Najwa for more than half her life…

Najwa and Dillon

Najwa and Dillon

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Najwa’s Birthday Studio Photos

Najwa Gaines on her first birthday

After we wrapped up Najwa’s birthday party at Mandu [I'll post those photos in a moment], Nduku set an appointment for us to take some studio portraits. My mom is in town and bought Najwa a traditional Korean dress called a Hanbok, worn for celebrations. I’m relieved Najwa cooperated, well, as cooperative as we could’ve hoped for considering her temper [which she might've got from daddy?] when forced to do things she doesn’t want to do [just like daddy].

Portraits From Najwa's First Birthday

 

The other dress Najwa was wearing was a gift from Belinda Sillas-Robinson, a friend from back in my Westover days. It was a BaByQ Shower gift, and we’ve been waiting for the right moment or it to make its debut.

Najwa Finally In Her Own Room

Najwa Gaines in her new room

Najwa is her very own room after we finally got everything moved in.

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Najwa’s Last Day in Her First Home

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Najwa’s last day in her first home.

Doug and I did a preliminary drive-by to see what we were up against. We averted our gaze from the clusters of individuals eyeballing us suspiciously but with anticipation. We rolled by as if we were uninterested, but really we were plotting how we were going to make our move without getting mobbed.

We parked not too far away when Doug said it all: “Feels like we’re hunting for a prostitute.”

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Grandma’s In Town For Najwa’s 1st Birthday

Last time my mom was in town, she was there witnessing Najwa come into the world. Now a year later,she returns to celebrate Najwa’s first birthday.

As usual, being a typical Gaines, we don’t know what time she got to DC, but she just knew she remembered how to get to our pad. She did get one thing right — we live just off of M Street. Only she was on M Street SW instead of NW and after a turn here and there, she was in Oxon Hill.

Once we got to the pad, though, it was play time for Najwa…

 

Najwa with her Korean grandmother

My Advice To “Fatty Mama” About Bullies

Najwa GainesWhen Dr. Anderson said it’s better to overfeed than underfeed an infant, well, it freed us from the anxiety of asking ourselves if we were feeding Najwa too much. So, we fed her. Sure, she has chunky cheeks, and she’s got some weight relative to her age, but she is far from having an obesity issue.

Actually, she looks like a well-fed child, a healthy one with no risk of malnutrition, a fully developed body meaning a fully developed everything else, from her heart to her bones to her brain. I’d rather spend money now on an extra jar of pureed squash than save it for medical bills later.

But of course kids are kids, and one of the kids at the babysitter likes to call her “Fatty Mama.” Doesn’t faze me. It’s kind of cute, actually. It’s said out of affection. The kids at the babysitters love Najwa. And vice versa. As soon as we walk through the door they’re all in each other’s face and so far, Najwa doesn’t have separation anxiety as we leave, engrossed with her extended family.

But as she gets older, kids will evolve into little imps. Little devils. And eventually, someone’s kid is going to say something, not kidding, but meant to be hurtful. And there may be haters. And bullies. And there’s going to be a time when she comes to me asking for advice of what to do.

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Najwa’s Repertoire of Silly Sounds

One lazy day, doing nothing but watching some Sprout TV, Najwa decided to add some sound effects to whatever we were watching. She’s developed a nice little range of sounds to her repertoire and is going to be a chatty one when she figures out the meaning of whatever she’s saying.

Here’s just a sample…

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Najwa and Her New Shades

We got Najwa her own pair of shades, but maybe it’s because of the elastic band that she simply won’t wear them. She thinks it’s a vice grip squeezing her skull. And she keeps her eyes closed the whole time as if it’s really a blindfold.

But, she got her hands on mommy’s shades. She’s just waiting to grow into them…

Najwa Gaines trying on some shades

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Najwa’s Latest Adventure: The Passenger Seat

Najwa GainesIt’s been a while, but it still happens. No warning signs, no gut feelings, no way to know that Najwa is about erupt like Mount Vesuvius spewing formula everywhere!

We were heading home the other day, just passing U Street when all I heard coming from the backseat was Nduku spouting the long version of OMG sprinkled in with a few other expletives. Najwa had just downed another bottle of lactose free formula, but apparently there wasn’t enough room for it in her tiny little belly. So what goes down, must come out all over her clothes, the car seat and a little contact spray for Nduku.

I couldn’t assess the damage from the front seat, so I was going to stay the course. But from the sounds of disgust Nduku was making, it became obvious I had to pull over. When she handed me Najwa’s bib, I could tell that all five ounces got evicted from Najwa’s stomach.

We had to take her pants off and figure out how to clean out the car seat before we got back on the road. To make it easy, we put Najwa in the passenger seat [while parked of course], and it didn’t take her long to find something to satisfy her curiosity.

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Najwa and Her Race To Walk

Najwa Gaines getting ready to walkIt used to be that whenever I was on daddy daycare duty while mommy was out getting her hair done, out shopping, at the gym, or just out, I had everything under control. Barricade Najwa on the sofa with a few pillows, pop a pacifier in her and off to la la land she went.

Newborns sleep so much that there’s really no interruption to your daily schedule. You just don’t get any sleep at night so you have no energy to do anything. Take a long hot shower, cook a 3-course meal, watch a movie without pressing pause once — nothing to it. But all I did was sleep.

And when she was awake, still all good. She had the coordination of someone who just took 8 shots of Patron, so she wasn’t going anywhere. She’d just lie on the sofa transfixed on the ceiling fan going ’round and ’round while I was transfixed on her. Even though everyone warns you to be careful what you wish for, you can’t help but say to yourself, “I can’t wait until she can roll over, sit up, crawl, walk…”

“Enjoy the moment,” I remind myself, “enjoy the moment.”

And then wish number one came true…

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Tomato and Cilantro — Absolutely Disgusting!

Killer TomatoesI’m not sure when it happened, but when I was a tyke, I was given something with tomato in it. As soon as that gooey, bugery texture touched my tongue, I gagged. I was nauseated. I instantly started fasting, losing my appetite for days [or was it hours?], recovering from attempted poisoning.

And ever since, I’ve been convinced that tomato isn’t really a food. It’s a fruit, sure, but it’s not supposed to be eaten until you grind and smash the evil soul out of it to make pizza sauce or ketchup. It’s like ginger root. You don’t just chew on it like a Twizzler. You have to mutate it until its pungent taste, small and texture is reduced to an aftertaste.

The so-called taste of tomatoes makes me want to vomit. Whenever I order a burger from wherever, I always repeat twice — I repeat, twice — “No tomato!” And every now and again when my karma is running low, I sink my teeth into the squishy texture of a tomato which causes my tongue to shrivel up like, well, you know, like when a man gets in the pool.

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Najwa’s Pilgrimage to Redskins Training Camp

Najwa Gaines and David Gaines at the Washington Redskins 2011 Training Camp in Ashburn, VA
If I look tired in the picture as we first entered Hog Heaven, it’s because I was! Najwa is not a lightweight anymore!

With the filthy rich owners and pretty damn rich players finally agreeing on how to share billions of our dollars, it’s finally time for some football. So what better to do to celebrate than to attend the Redskins training camp in sweltering summer heat?

Najwa, who was rocking Redskins gear the moment the nurses let us dress her up [yes, less than 24 hours after birth!], got to attend her first Redskins camp before she even turned one. I waited 37 years for this.

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Sign of What’s Coming Next In Parenthood

Najwa Gaines holding a can of Mountain DewIs it really August already? This time last year everyone kept [and keeps] saying as I find myself saying already to every and anyone expecting a child: enjoy this moment in the moment because it will pass by faster than you know it.

Enjoy being pregnant. Enjoy the doctor’s visits and ultrasounds. Enjoy the first day your child is born as if those 24 hours are all you have to live. Enjoy those first few weeks even if you’d trade your right arm for 4 continuous hours of sleep. Just 4 hours in a row.

Because before you can figure out how to use a sterilizer or the rectum thermometer — that little bundle of joy, that tiny human being that doesn’t do much more than eat, sleep and sh!t, that evolution of you and your significant other will turn into another species altogether called the toddler.

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Najwa’s First Trip To The Beach

David Gaines and Najwa Gaines at Rehoboth Beach in DelawareWhen Najwa was 3 months old [maybe 4] giving her a bath was like subjecting her to waterboarding. Maybe the water’s too hot? Not hot enough? Maybe all babies let out bloodcurdling screams when the water touches their bare bottoms?

If Nduku ever wanted me to do something, all she had to do was say we were about to give Najwa a bath. “Wash the car? I’m on it.” “Watch more reality TV? We can DVR it and rewatch it after it goes off.” “Vote for a Republican? It is secret, right?” Standing pat while torturing Najwa with a bath was a bit more than I wanted to bear so early into fatherhood.

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Najwa at the Columbia Heights Fountains

Najwa Gaines playing in the water at the Sculpture Garden

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Najwa at the Sculpture Garden

It seems like yesterday when giving Najwa a bath that she would go berserk as soon as she felt the water hit her little bottom. Now she has a fascination with water and if it wasn’t for mommy, Najwa would’ve dived right into the fountain at the Sculpture Garden!

Najwa Gaines playing in the water at the Sculpture Garden

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Najwa’s First Air Show — The Thunderbirds

The Thunderbirds at Andrews AFB

 

I guess this is technically the second air show Najwa’s been to, but last year she was only in the second trimester. This year, though, she got to experience the Thunderbirds with her own eyes and bake in the sun with us.

After several hours at Andrews Air Force Base with not enough clouds in the sky — we took off her li’l shoes and saw a tan line. It’s about time she started getting some color! The clear skies, though, made for some pretty good pictures. Last year was the Blue Angels; this year the Thunderbirds…

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Random Najwa and Daddy Photos

Found these photos of me and Najwa taken a few weeks ago while going through the thousands of photos we take every chance we get.

David Gaines and his daughter Najwa Gaines in Washington, DC
David Gaines and daughter Najwa Gaines

 

David Gaines and daughter Najwa GainesDavid Gaines and daughter Najwa Gaines at a restaurant in Silver Spring, MD

 
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Patiently Waiting for West End’s New Library

I have to catch myself from time to time saying things like I can’t wait until Najwa can walk, or I can’t wait until Najwa can talk, or I can’t wait until Najwa and I can go to the library and read together. Time passes by so lightning fast that I sometimes fear I’m going to miss something waiting for something in the future. One day I’m going to wake up and say something like I sure miss those days Najwa and I would go to the library…

One day Najwa will walk. And talk. And we’ll go to the library, and sometime around 2014 Eastbanc will be unwrapping the bubble wrap to a new funky looking library in West End. I’m not sure which of the two renderings Eastbanc recently revealed that I like most, but I can’t wait to take Najwa there and cherish the moment while we have it.

West End Concept Rendering

 

West End Concept Rendering

 

Najwa Discovers Her Own Shadow

It’s always so entertaining to watch Najwa playing in the mirror. I have no idea if she has any idea that the image is her, but she and her reflection sure do seem to get along. And just the other day, she discovered another friend — her shadow.

Najwa playing with her shadow

 
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Najwa

While waiting for an oil change several weeks ago, the ladies and I were just sitting outside on a breezy day not far from where soon will be one of four Walmarts. What better way to get me to change the subject of the evils of Walmart than having me take more pictures of Najwa?

Najwa

 

Teeth-Sighting Inside Najwa’s Mouth!

If there was one thing Nduku and I weren’t expecting to be spending a lot of money on, hands down it was bibs. We’ve heard people talk about teething, but never would I have imagined how much spittage Najwa could produce per minute! As soon as I put a bib on her, it’s drenched. This has been going on for a couple of months, but finally, there has been a teeth-sighting!

Teeth sighting for Najwa Gaines

Teeth sighting for Najwa Gaines

 

Yes, It’s An Application To Date Najwa

Naturally as a man there’s an anxiety of what happens when our little girls reach that dating age. I can vividly see Thanksgiving dinner with someone sitting across the table from me, not quite what I had in mind and I’ll leave it at that.

Whenever I get on the Metro and witness what some of today’s teenagers have to offer, I cringe. They haven’t been taught manners and some probably don’t even know how to spell it. Some think they’re manner than their fellow make friends.

Nduku found a solution though. A simple application to have filled out for anyone interested in being Najwa’s significant other. I don’t care hold old [or young] he is. This application is going to become mandatory to even call her. And if you need your parents to help fill it out, you’re automatically disqualified.

Application to Date

 

Money For Your Kids’ College — Plan 529

DC College Savings PlanIt’s amazing what men converse about when they have kids. Mike Lindsay started it off with his son; then Eric Mack followed up with his daughter before we had Najwa. Several years ago the three of us went to New York and the last thing we were thinking about was kids. Friday night we rolled out again to celebrate Eric’s move back to North Carolina, and slowly but surely, the kids entered the conversation.

One of the main topics was college. Specifically saving money for college. Sure, we can put away 10 percent of our check and hope we can keep up with the increasing costs of college, but savings accounts generally earn you less than 1 percent interest while inflation alone increase up to 3 percent a year. In other words you’re money loses value as fast as your car does once you ride off the lot with it.

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Najwa, Erykah and MJ Steal the Show

A congratulations is in order to Eric with his new job in Raleigh where his family is moving. This weekend we rolled out to Eric’s to help him toss out some furniture as he prepares to make that move back to North Carolina. Our homeboy Mike also came through and it’s amazing how just a couple of years ago, it would’ve been all adults in the room. But just like that, our kids are the center of the attraction…

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Najwa Goes to Grandma’s House

Najwa and her grandmotherIt’s been a minute since I was in my hometown, Fayetteville, NorthCak. Usually my mom comes to DC for her visits with the doctors at Walter Reed Hospital where she received her kidney transplant. But since those don’t happen as fast as Najwa’s growing, Nduku and I took a road trip for my mom’s birthday.

And I promise my mom was smiling the entire time we were there. Last time my mom saw her, Najwa slept most of the day, laid on her back most of the day and slept the rest of the day. And slept. Six months later and Najwa is one active baby. We got to my childhood home around 4 am but my mom and Najwa were acting like it was 4 in the afternoon.

Najwa’s sitting up now. Has her ears pierced. Can hold things in her hand. And knows how to let us know when she wants attention with a shriek. Which is every time we’re not giving her attention. But she sat still long enough every now and again to take a few pictures…

 

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There’s No Comparison to Parenthood, Dawg

Najwa Mi Museo GainesArnold, my manager, and I were talking today about having a child and how people who have dogs [but no children] say it’s like having a child. There isn’t a word to describe how inane that comparison is. But if you don’t have a child, it’s hard to see it from any other point of view. With a dog you do have responsibilities and expenses and might loss a little sleep here and there.

But having a child is like being born a human being again, only an upgrade of your former self. It’s not adding another set of items on your to do list; having a child is about rewriting or even replacing your to do list. Whatever was on it and whatever is now on it are not necessarily compatible. It’s not walk the dog then hit the club scene. It’s change a diaper, read a book, wash that extra load of laundry with spit up on it, do some tummy time, play peek-a-boo, prepare another bottle, play, feed, change, rock to sleep, repeat, repeat, repeat…

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We’re Going to Grandma’s in The ‘Ville

Najwa GainesIt’s been six months since my mom last saw Najwa. She probably thinks Najwa’s still a newborn, but at her 6-month doctor’s visit, Najwa tipped the scales at 20 pounds 12 ounces and measured 26 inches tall [or is it short?].

Not only did Najwa get four more shots [vaccinations], she got her ears pierced, and I really did try to hold it but I couldn’t stop laughing from seeing her face when the pediatrician popped that needle through her earlobe. I would’ve taken pictures but I was struggling with holding her legs down.

This weekend, though, we’re making a trip down to The ‘Ville for my mom’s birthday as I resist the urge to sneak out for the Prince concert in Greensboro. I will take pictures of grandma’s face when she sees how big our little girl is getting.

And then at the end of the year, Najwa flies for the first time as we head to Kenya for her to meet her other grandma!

 

So if you’ll be in Fayetteville, NC, this weekend, hit me up.